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Fibbles
23rd July 2004, 10:14
Well, a little over four and a half years ago my dad passed away. He died of liver problems and complications due to surgery and hepatitus C. He contracted it in Mexico, during a visit earlier that year (1999). Being from India (a third world country) he thought he could survive the experience of another thrid world first hand, so he ignored all the precautions; don't drink the water, don't eat raw shelfish (isn't that anywhere really?). He had also not realized that, when he was nineteen and still living in India, he had contracted Hep. C and that would hamper him eventually. He was sort of arrogant, being a neurosurgeon (is that e - u or u - e?), as well as a heavy drinker, so his liver wasn't exactly in great shape to begin with. After he got sick, and was diagnosed with Hep C he had been pursuing disability insurance. He'd payed the insurance Co. a lot of money through the years, but when he needed it the most, they refused to pay, using every excuse in the book to deny him his benefits, probably because based on his income and whatever other calculations they use, he was owed around $11,000 a month. They also refused top pay because he claimed to have been a publisher, but that was a lie, and he lied because he didn't want anyone to know that he was out of a job and needed it to keep his pride up.

Since he died on January 9th 2004 (he went into a coma 2 days after X-Mas and never recovered - my last memory of him was him higher than hell on dilaudid wanting me to wish him a happy surgery, for gall stones, he was warned against it, but he couldn't be persuaded otherwise), I've (his estate) been fighting for that money. Being broke, he racked up a little bit of debt, and the estate now owes over $400,000 to various creditors, plus the IRS wants $927,000 (he made $940,000 in 1997 - when I used to answer "a million" to what my dad made in a year, I wasn't far off ^_^ ). We were going to sue the insurance company, but the two lawyers were all talk and no action, so we found a friend of a friend who's been slow (he did have cancer at the time) but we've managed. In these four years, we've had offers to settle with the insurance company many times, but their first offer was a mere $40,000 and they really tried to pressure us into acceptingl, saying we'd never get any higher. A while after we refused, they sent another offer of $68,000 our way. I wanted to accept, but our lawyer said no, and kept pursuing. During that time, we found out that the guy in charge of reimbursement had died, and a woman had taken his place. Soon after she took over, she offered $96,000. Our lawyer decided to give one last try, and include a huge sympathy ploy, and apparently she bit, because we just accepted the $175,000 offer they put on the table. My dad was originally owed in the area of $200,000. Now, we really have "pennies on the dollar" to give to all the creditors. I'm taking my chunk and investing. What the heck should I invest in?

I sort of had to vent. I've been wanting to settle this for the past 4 years, and now it's finally over. Pay the creditors and then close up the estate forever. To think, at one point (1994, I think), my dad bought a $173,000 set of silver, ivory and, gold silverware on impulse and for the f*ck of it. He was the most unhappy person I've ever met, and had a lot of personal problems. Oh well...

mrplow
23rd July 2004, 10:26
I don't have a good reply.. but I read it and felt I should respond with *something*.

Sorry to hear about your dad's passing. Glad to hear you've made some progress settling up matters.

Knipex
23rd July 2004, 10:38
I have to second Mr. Plow's answer.

What to say, I dont know but again I feel bound to say something.

You are one step closer to closure and that is a good thing..

Darv
23rd July 2004, 11:22
Not sure what else to say but it's good to see things are improving and you're moving on.

furious trout
23rd July 2004, 12:17
^^^^ What they said.

It always seems the same with insurance companies, they quick to take the cash, but they sure as hell don't want to pay out when you need it most. :rant:

Anyway glad to hear you've got it sorted mate.

mnpctech
23rd July 2004, 13:17
My friend's mother passed away (old age) last year. He fought with Care Institution over her remaining money. These outfits are given access to the individual's accounts to cover living/care expenses. By law, he had everyright to it, but they dragged their feet for 6 mons. He was in debt and had to borrow money for lawyer etc.. Man was hardly over grieving his mother's passing and @ sametime wage a battle over what was owed to him. argh!

Glad to hear things are moving forward for you.

Starbuck3733T
23rd July 2004, 14:51
Jeebus christmas man... Words cannot even describe what you must feel about those insurance company cockgobblers. I am glad to hear you are moving on. Let me give you a quote from my dad, from my grandmother's wake: "Do not remember the bad, remember the good and happy times, because that is what she would have wanted."

So you're one step closer to putting it behind you, which is good.

Investing? Google IPO if you can possibly get it.

The root of evil is not money, it is GREED which spurs the need for ever increasing amounts of money.

*Manly pat on the back*

Fibbles
23rd July 2004, 22:42
Thanks, I got the call from the Lawyer and accepted the offer, then I sort of had no one to vent to. My best friend is acting very wierd after comming back from his 3 year Peace Corps stay in Mongolia, and another friend is sort of MIA in his head. :) I like you guys.

I happen to remember a lot of good things about my dad now more than ever, and even though I acted tough and like it was water under the bridge, I really do miss him.

Lastly, I have a pretty substantial amount of Life insurance left over in my account (ironically, the same company that wouldn't give him his disability holds his life insurance money) and greed hasn't been an issue. Of course there's been the "need" to furnish every room in the house with an Alienware, but that's evil - overpriced and made by corporate evildoers! All my AC stuff (heck, all my "stuff") has been bought through paychecks - I'm now an office temp (I go in when ppl call in sick or need extra help, and get to shuffle my wages and hours around a bit, so far so good).

Fibbles
29th July 2004, 22:44
I AM PISSED!!!!!!!

I fell asleep this morning at 10:30 AM and woke up a few minutes ago at 2:30 PM, in what was, a pretty restful 4 hour nap, right in time for a shark week program (they really cut back on how many shark programs are on in one night). I checked my email and I noticed there were around 6 bids and outbid notices that I didn't make. Now, normally I'd hurry in and change the password, but I authorized the first tresspass, sort of. I bought my good to best friend a Sony Ericsson T360 Mobile phone. He has no eBay feedback and had a yahoo email, the seller wanted a more stable email addy and he was refused for bidding, enter me, I let him use my eBay name, and he bid, and gave me the money for the phone, but now he's pissing me off. He seems to think that "our agreement" means he can bid on more items. I have a Paypal premier account, and that means I take that 3% loss every time some one sends money, so now, I've put over $15 into his items already. I need to tell him no more, and change my password.

/Rant over...

toby
30th July 2004, 07:17
i love shark programs:wub:

Fibbles
30th July 2004, 08:24
i love shark programs:wub:
Same. Tonights was a little info on Bull sharks. It also recalled the person who had, last year, been bitten by one when he and Nigel Marvin were standing in knee-deep water. The guy has physicaly recovered, but he's sort of fuggled mentally and emotionally. He seems to be obsessed with understanding Bull sharks now. Earlier there was a program about areas of land now, where there was once lots of water and lots of sharks. Both were dated 2004, but many of the others were repeats I saw in their primes four years ago. That's about the time they went from a full week with nothing but shark shows, to one or two per day. I didn't even know it was the Discovery Channels Shark Week due to serious lack of coverage and interest.

toby
1st August 2004, 09:09
i dont have sky or whatnot just terrestrial which is a shame cause discovery always do good shows

Firelord
1st August 2004, 10:54
Glad to hear you are sorting yourself out and obviously feeling better :)

Change all your passwords and make sure your friend can't get access to those eBay accounts ;)